The real threat

We are most afraid of losing things we posses. Wealth, health, relationships, reputation. We fight with all our might to protect all our possessions. What is our most valuable possession? For me the easiest way to identify that is how do one define himself to the question what  am I ? This question often considered in the social contest, therefore usually identified with profession/career. But if each of us ask these question to ourself, and if we try to answer it honestly the answer will emerge. Someone who answer that "I am an entrepreneur" to this question, might answer "I am a father/mother", if it were posed as a reflective question. 

The more identities we have, the more we have to strive to protect all these identities. That is why many poets considered the poor and those who live in destitution as much more happier, internally, than those who are in higher strata in the society. That may be the reasoning for abandoning all your possessions and cutting ties with family before pursuing a monastic life. But in daily life, how do a common man operate when s/he sense (real or imaginative) a threat to his possession. How do one react when s/he realize that someone else is trying to sabotage his most valuable identity. S/he is a currept. S/he is bad parent, S/he is a irresponsible family person, S/he is opportunist.... S/he is  (any adjective opposite to the very thing you identify yourself as).....

It is sorry to see innocent people pushed into such uncorfotable situation and forced to defend their identify as a good father, good mother, good son, good scientist, good businessman, good politician. Many times the harder one fight, the more we presume their inocorrect identity. Accusations are easy to make. But those who are not street smart, those who does not want to win at any cause, those whose follow strong ethical principles, those who do not want to hurt their loved ones, those who do not want to backstab people who trust them, became defenseless. They became losers in such meaningless wars, they would be given a new costume by the society. The irresponsible, the bad, the corrupt, the ugly, ......

The only way not to lose such "battles" is by not trying to win the war. It might sound counter intuitive. It also might not work in all the cases. I do not, fortunately, had to encounter a lot of such situations. But in a few instances, my strategy was, would be to to keep doing what I think is the right thing to do. The universe operates in weird ways. Although a man of science, the principle of Karma (to the most part) make perfect sense to me. In fact that is the only thing that make sense to me, in this complex world. Do the things, that does not hurt others (unless others pose a real threat to you and rest of the world), if it does not make a huge dent in my life, do things that make someone else life better, do not be greedy, share as much as possible, love as much as possible, work for the betterment of humanity as much as possible. Let me be honest here. This list is largely aspirational. Obviously, I am a work in progress. Who is not?